I made a conscious choice to use the word 'Vagina' in my house.
To normalise something that was hidden in my own.
To bring it out into the open.
So my sons, when the time comes, are not scared by one.
And will not, from that point of fear, do what lots of men do and try to control and dominate what they don't know or understand.
So my daughter is comfortable in her own skin.
And is proud of who she is.
So she feels Safe and Worthy and Whole.
I LOVE my Vagina.
It's taken a long time but we're best mates now.
This impacted BEAUTIFULLY on me and I felt to share it with YOU!
All my LOVE
As I was bagging up my shopping at the till, I suddenly wanted to stabbed myself repeatedly in my own eyes, I was that BOOORED! This all consuming wave of UTTER BOREDOM flooded my system as I looked at the bloke who was shoving my goods through the till I saw the downright emptiness, and dejection that only "I SO DON'T WANT TO BE HERE, I"M SOOOO BORED" would bring.
A Tsunami of a sigh escaped my lips and the words, "Oh my god I'm so bored I could just leave this shop right now" crashed the shore of his dead pan face and broke it open into a GAFAW of laughter, with which he replied, "and me!!!". No shit Sherlock, I thought!! Because you see, these feelings were HIS not mine. Up until that point I was having a lovely little shop, mooching around and generally enjoying myself until I walked into his MASSIVE field of vibrating BOREDOM and soaked it right up!
So, here's my top 5 Sensory Saves for you Empaths out there...
1: If you're going somewhere busy or just off out, then put your shield up. Imagine a cloaking device that covers your entire body starting about 30cms out. Now mine has a special filter where it can pick up information as normal but only lets the positive in. I can still detect the negatives and vibes etc, cause thats important for me to know and analyse,
I just don't take it on!
2: Once ya got your shield up, ground yourself right into the centre of the earth.
Imagine a rope or chain extending out from the base of your spine ALL the way to the Centre of the Earth. There you will tie the rope or chain to whatever you find there. Now print, burn, chisel your name and the date and time all the way down. Now welcome Earths grounding life force energy up, right up through the earth and up through your feet all the way up and into your belly, allowing it to SWIRL around.
Now imagine a ball of golden Life Force energy, hovering above your head. As you welcome it to flood in through the top of your head and down through your body, let it mingle with the Earths energy and expand throughout your whole body. At this point you will feel super present and grounded!
You will get quick at doing this the more you practice. I can have it all going off as I cross the car park to Lidels... (Shame I bloody forgot on Sunday eh!! :D)
3: Imagine you have a set of dials in front of you that control what you see, hear and feel. If the dial is set to 1, I will see all the unhappy, angry, tired, downright depressed bods mullying around and 10 is the Happy, supportive, jolly lovely people that are enjoying life. Have a feel where your dial is at... Then CRANK IT UP BABY! Well, to where you are HAPPY with!!
On the next dial, 1 is you will hear EVERYTHING that's going on. All the cries and screams and arguments and huffs and puffs and the general mayhem of most families out shopping for the day. 10 is ALL the GOOD STUFF, the helpful stuff, the laughter, the fun, the happy people who are out to help you...
Have a feel where your dial is at... Then CRANK IT UP BABY! Again, where you are HAPPY with!
Next I check where my feelings are. 1 is right crap, and 10 is WOO HOOOOO!! Full of Life, my Mojo is a GO GO!
I turn my dial to where I want to feel.
So now I only notice, feel and tune into the good, easy going vibe and if at any point anyone gets through all of that, I play with my dials, strengthen my connection to Earth and feel the thrill of the golden energy waves sweeping through my body, till I'm back in my good space.
4: Once you've stabilised your own Energetic Vibration and are fully present, grounded and centred, it will be very hard for anyone to draw you in and have an energetic feed from you. Whether people are conscious or not of their energetic feeds, swaps, soaks or spues, you being in a stable and more dominant positive vibration will rise others up to either meet you or be repelled by you. Coming from this place you are more likely to connect to that place in them, their TRUE SELF, bypassing their 'stuff', allowing for a much more happier, joyful, stable connection, where people leave you and feel 'FILLED UP' and 'HAPPY' rather than drained.
5: IF after all this you soak up some negative wave, headache, anxiety, BOreDOM, any feeling or physical ailment, then you can SEND IT BACK TO THE OWNER!
Oh Yes!! Send any energy that is NOT yours back and welcome home any energy that you've had taken or was soaked up by someone else or you gave away.
Internal & external emotional, mental and physical body check using your inner sense.
I like to do this either in the moment or just before I go to sleep. Each energy wave has an imprint or energetic blueprint from it's owner & it knows where it has come from and will be wanting to return.
So, run through your day and tune into, feel and see where that negative wave came from in them and where it landed in you. And then literally send it back and welcome home any you have lost. How this happens for you will be unique to you. I can see and feel mine, I know what Mine looks like and can send back rogue patterns that don't belong to my system easily.
IT just takes practice.
Once you got all this sussed, you will start to realise that being an Empath is true a gift. I connect with peoples energy ALL the time in my life & work, it gives me an edge.
It fuels us both up and leaves us feeling connected, present and grounded.
It just doesn't effect me the way it use to anymore! Which, to be perfectly honest was rather shit!! Not only did I have to handle my own ever changing emothions and thoughts, I'd have to handle and process yours too!! EEEUUUGGHHH!!! Random Pain, Headaches, Thoughts, Impressions, Feelings!! Now, with these tools up my sleeve it's better! Lot's better!
For more information about how to stabilise your energetic field so you can use your gift and not be abused by it, then please, contact me below...
Now this.... This to me is the Taste of Autumn and I LOVE it!! I feel so Loved up right now and not just because I've got this yummy pot of Butternut Squash Soup ready for my family to scoff as soon as they come running in the door.
I am filled to overflowing with the enormous amount of Love, Wisdom and Knowledge I soaked up over the last two weekends whilst doing my Post Natal Yoga Teachers Training! I am chuffing at the bit to bring the New Mummys and their Bubbas EVERY Nourishing Morsal I have learnt. A massive Thank you to my sister Clare Maddalena and ALL the Ladies in the LushTums Family! I LOVE you ALL and together we really are changing the way women birth and parent. It makes my work so much easier when we, nurture and grow WHOLE CONSCIOUS Human Beings who Love themselves and each other! This world has reached Critical Mass. Ignore what the media is trying to drip feed you. We have done it and we will continue to raise consciousness on this planet in alignment with our StAr Brothers and Sisters. Here's to our Future for it is BRIGHT!
Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach