This year, I changed the Majority of my Story and in doing so, I freed myself from ALL those little boxes people had placed me, and I freed a certain person from his little box I had placed him...
It was Scary at times, venturing into the unknown with my little family on a raft of hope and adventure, but above all, for the first time in a very long time, I felt ALIVE!!
2011 was the begginning of a new Chapter... Chapter 13 to be precise... titled
Act I on... this is the time I put into Practice ALL that I have been learning and clearing and healing and loving about myself....
My Intention for 2012.... If it feels close to my Passion I will Act on It!!.... Simples!!
♥ Happy New Turn of the Sun Folkes!!! ♥
_I ask my children what their life story is till now...
I also check in with myself regularly about, what kinda life story I am helping create for them...
I change my perception of my life story lots too!!!
Especially the chapters that are a bit scary or Sad!!
I like to imagine different conclusions to up and coming chapters and titles for those Chapters...
I veer towards choosing the closest to my Passion, when making BIG descions!
I LOVE my Life Story to date!
It's made me... ME!!
This is the Season to go back home to where it all started, armed with Presents and good Cheer, feeling all enlightened and conscious after all the effort and hard work you have put in through out the year, only for it all to Fall away as soon as you cross over the threshhold to yourMum and Dads and tumble back down the path to sit and wait patiently for you to pick it up when you leave!!!
You might, in the 'real' world, be the head of your own company, a Teacher, Run your own Family, a grown up, an adult, the big cheese!!.. Suddenly, however, you find yourself time travelling back through Time and Space, as old feelings and situations arise...
What era are you transported back to??
How old are you, as you sit there, feeling the feelings that come up for you??
How are you viewing your Family and how old are they??
Are you 'reacting' to the situations blindly and in that same old way?
Have you still got them in that box marked '1976!!
Are you Still Blaming them and your upbringing for the life you have led and the mind set you have, even though it may well have been 30 or 40 or 50 or more years ago!!!
Are you still playing the Blame Game???
Does this really serve you and FREE you up to live life more LIGHTLY???
Going home and sitting amongst family, is a True test, to see just how 'enlightened' you truely are.
Viewing this as an opportunity, to see what you have to work on next, is a Great way to A: get through the holiday and B: staying on your path of Recovery, Consciousness and Living Life Lightly!!
Seasons Greetings to you ALL, and May this year Bring you more of the Good stuff!!!
Oh yeh... Remember to Breathe! :D
Most of the time it's what's NOT said, that's heard!!
_When a person has uncomfortable thoughts or feelings, they may project these onto other people, assigning the thoughts or feelings they can’t handle on to a convenient alternative target.
It may also be projection when we ignore attributes of other people, which we are uncomfortable with. We assume that they are like us, and in doing so we allow ourselves to ignore those attributes they have with which we are uncomfortable.
Projection also appears where we see our own traits in other people. So we see our friends as being more like us than they really are.
• Neurotic projection perceives others as operating in ways one unconsciously finds objectionable in yourself.
• Complementary projection is assuming that others do, think and feel in the same way as you.
• Complimentary projection is assuming that others can do things as well as you.
I do not like another person. But I have a value that says I should like everyone. So I project onto them that they do not like me. This allows me to avoid them and also to handle my own feelings of dislike.
An unfaithful husband suspects his wife of infidelity.
A woman who is attracted to a fellow worker accuses the person of sexual advances.
Projecting thoughts or emotions onto others allows the person (projector) to consider them and how dysfunctional they are, but without feeling the attendant discomfort of knowing that these thoughts and emotions are their own. We can thus criticize the other person, distancing ourselves from our own dysfunction.
Freud’s explanation is that the ego perceives dysfunction from 'somewhere' and then seeks to locate that somewhere. The super ego warns of punishment if that somewhere is internal, so the ego places it in a more acceptable external place - often in convenient other people.
To communicate authentically with other people, avoid projecting your woes onto them. When you see others in a negative light, think: are you projecting? Also understand that when others are criticising you, they may well be criticising a projection of themselves.
NLP is concerned with the interaction between the outer world inner worlds: how we take in and make sense of external events and how we put our inner thoughts and understandings back out into the outer world.
When It was all going tit's up, I had a strong impression of my Future Self, all healthy and Happy and Content standing looking out of a window at me saying, "Come on Trish!! You can do it!!! Just keep on darling!! You are Strong and Beautiful and YOU CAN DO IT!!! I'm here for you ALL the time!! Just ask and I'll send you the strength you need!! I LOVE you darling! Get up!! Come to me!!! You CAN do it!!!" and then she or I was gone and I wiped away my tears and got up off the floor and carried on.... This time with some hope in my heart and a bit of Strength in my belly.....
One day a good few years later, I suddenly stopped what I was doing and stood looking out of my window I suddenly had the impression of a past self, kneeling on the floor with a tear stained face on the brink of life itself.... From deep within my very soul I called out to her accross the very fabric of Time and Space, ""Come on Trish!! You can do it!!! Just keep on darling!! You are Strong and Beautiful and YOU CAN DO IT!!! I'm here for you ALL the time!! Just ask and I'll send you the strength you need!! I LOVE you darling! Get up!! Come to me!!! You CAN do it!!!" And I knew, in that moment, I had heard and I had seen and I had gotten up and became me!!!
And so, every now and then, I take a moment and connect... To the various me's of the past and especially to the me's of the future! I send out little threads of hope backwards and forwards and sideways though time and space and I give myself HOPE and COURAGE and STRENGTH and above all LOVE to Live my life with such BLESSINGS and GRATITUDE!!!
For this life truely is a Miracle!!!
_Stop Worrying so much...
Worrying is using your imagination to create things you don't want!! ♥Abraham Hicks♥
Use your imagination and write yourself a note asking for a sloution, then post it in your imaginary post box.
Keep your eyes peeled for the reply!!
N – Neurology: The mind and how we think.
L – Linguistics: How we use language and how it affects us.
P – Programming: How we sequence our actions to achieve our goals.
NLP studies how we structure our subjective experience – how we think about our values and beliefs, how we create our emotional states and how we choose to behave. NLP began by studying the best communicators and therapists and has evolved into the systemic study of human communication. It has grown by adding practical tools and methods generated by modelling exceptional people. It is also a way of thinking, a frame of mind based on curiosity, exploration and fun.
NLP can be used to enhance your quality of life, relationships of all kinds, mental clarity, emotional balance, physical well being, sense of fulfilment and feeling of self-worth.
I create the opportunity for you to explore how you structure your world, so that you can expand your choices and identify your future direction, enabling you to overcome your obstacles and live the life you really want too..
NLP is a box that holds different tools to be used to upload Or rewrite new paterns of behavoiur or beliefs into the subconscious mind... If your computer was running slow and glitchy you would probably get someone in OR defrag it yourself... The mind is THE most POWERFUL computer EVER!!! Upload new beliefs/programmes/patterns of behaviours so your mind, emotions and actions run more smoothly and functional just the way you want it too!!
I've changed and upgraded my life, and continue too, using the tools in the NLP box...
I LOVE it!!!
I'm here if ya want to know any more!!
It's one of my Favourite subjects!!!
“As within, so without. As without, so within.” Based on The Kybalion
Everything in the world that you perceive, you perceive only what is in yourself. When you perceive something and have a negative response it is usually because:
Either you notice something in someone else that you have denied yourself,
Or you notice something in someone else that you deny in yourself.
Or you are thwarted in achieving something you want.
Or a trigger from the past.
The mirror has a positive side too, what you like in others, tells you what you like in yourself!
So, all of the above can cause positive and negative emotion. Anger or compassion, envy or admiration. This is only a message. It is how you respond that counts!
When you are angry with someone else, let’s take messy children as an example, there are three different internal causes:
You are angry because you are messy yourself (and you deny this knowledge), or
You deny yourself the luxury of being messy, or
You are angry because you are thwarted in achieving something you want.
A “trigger” is a fourth cause of anger. To respond automatically when something happens. This is a learnt response, normally from childhood, although we can create new ones as we navigate through life.
At the time a trigger is created it’s normally because of one of the above three causes. So, anger is an adult temper tantrum, hidden by a veneer of righteousness!!
Mostly, emotions experienced in the now, are the past projections from others, triggered by present environments. So by addressing the past, eventually only present projections will happen, and you can then use the emotion as a cue for right action.
An empowering belief to have is that when you are cross with someone it is simply a message. A message to understand and
Re-integrate a part of you!
Acceptance notices things without judgment. Acceptance is different to “condoning” behavior.
A useful belief is that all behaviors have positive intentions – sometimes deep down, but eventually they do have a positive intention. When this is used with the realisation that we have learnt our behaviors in childhood without really knowing what we were doing acceptance comes more easily.
To change our behavior, it is required to understand its purpose. By satisfying its purpose in other ways, our habits change –
Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach