As Jai, my 7 year old, bounced on my bed this morning, he suddenly, in a voice full of injustice, flopped onto his hunches and demanded,
"How come, you grown ups, when you do something wrong like when you shout at us kids for no reason, and then you just say 'sorry' us kids, we just say 'yeah ok mum' and then we just get on with it, totally forgiving you, but you adults, hold on to it for ages?? But, when we say sorry, we still have to go to our rooms or lose out on watching telly? You adults just hold onto stuff for like ages. That can't be good for you can it?
Mmmmmmmmm I sat down next to him and looked at his very astute observation with him.
"Interesting Jai, and yeh, you're right I do hold onto stuff for a bit. Maybe adults find it way harder to forgive and Let go than you kids. You're very good at it. Keep hold of that skill darling, because it's something many of us grown ups have lost along the way and are trying to get it back" I said.
"I will mum" said Jai
"I remember being a kid and sometimes I knew i didn't deserve being shouted at and a sorry was all I needed to hear, which I never did. Adults didn't seem to say sorry to children back then".
"Well you're doing very well then Mum"
"Awwwww thanks Jai, bless you" I smiled
"If you want to be able to just accept my sorry and get on with it, just copy me if you like" offered Jai
"I'll give it a go Jai, to forgive and let go, I'll give it a go!!
Off he ran into his bedroom.
A few minutes later a little head popped in through the door,
"so, I won't need to stay in my room now then when I do something wrong?" he asked!
Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach