Throughout the gestation period and birthing process and the first 7 years of life, we form our core belief structures about ourselves, and the world around.
By going back to our own birth and Recognising, Respecting and Releasing we can literally rewrite our neural net, our programming, thus changing our experience of life.
I've worked with people who remember exactly what the DR, Health Care Professionals & family members said to them and about them as they were birthing, and in the first few years of their lives. "He's a stubborn one" and "He so late" "She doesn't want to be here" "She's trouble" "Look at her, she's so angry at the world" 'She's a fussy eater" "He's so demanding" "He's ravenous all the time" 'She's so lazy" "She's so naughty" "He's such a pain" "He's relentless he never gives up" "She's disgusting" "He'll be the death of me" were some of their core beliefs that shaped their life experience.
One women who, as a baby, wasn't expected to live and whose Mother was told not to bond with her because the Grief would be easier to handle, and so she never fully incarnated or ever felt really connected and loved by her mum. She always felt like she wasn't really here & was never seen for who she really was. Under stressful situations she would get incredibly exhausted and have to shut down in order to cope, which had started to impact heavily in her day to day life. On reflection it was what she did as that tiny baby so her body could do what it needed to survive & cope. She could feel that everyone around her had given up on her in that incubator & had left her totally alone without any kind of loving contact or connection.
So, those feelings like no one believed in her, of separation, loneliness, isolation & that she just wanted to leave and go home, ( not commit suicide) just to go home, and that utter exhaustion and constantly shutting out life, resolved itself once she had gone back and claimed her rightful place and recognised and respected what had gone on and why, which brought about a natural resolution and forgiveness and so she could finally release it all and let it all go, maturing up her baby self to the here and now to truly incarnate in her body and live her life! All that vital life force that was lacking before came flooding back.
I can see how my own birth story directly influenced how I birthed my children & has influenced my life. I was due at the same time as my cousin, who lived up the road. She was born with the cord wrapped around her neck and didn't ever take her first breath. As such, I was engulfed with wave upon wave of grief, panic and fear. As these emotions coursed through my mums body, I soaked them up. A very real fear that I could die as I was being born nestled into every one of my cells. That life and death were tied together and that at any moment the unexpected could happen. To be pregnant and to birth were like walking the Life Death Tight Rope, a Game of Chance where Trust took a back seat, & Life wasn't a safe place, there were no guarantees. A disconnection between me and my mum set in, as she focused on my Aunty and her emotional needs. It was Relief that rippled through my household and an inwardly expressed celebration when I was born, to respect my Aunty and her daughter that was taken from her. Sad times indeed.
So, when it was my turn to birth my son, I dreamt of horrid situations where he was "taken from me" in all it's variations. It's also an Irish term for when someone dies & would have been said a lot when my wee cuz didn't come with me. Over and over I would dream these dreams, not realising I was trying to help myself heal from this all mighty wound. Off course I didn't have any of the tools I have now and so, when the time came, I couldn't let my son out and birth him into this world where he could be taken from me and as a result he was taken from me by Caesarean Section. As all three of my children have.
Using my tools I've healed this wound and gone right back and held my young mum in her panic, grief and fear. I showed her just how well she does in delivering me into this world and that she can trust and know I am safe and go on to live an extraordinary & wonderful life. I've traveled back into my mums womb and held my baby self, whispered all that she needed to hear and feel and know and rebirthed her in all her shinning glory! For she Matters, She is Safe, She is Loved, The World is Full of Wonder, She deserves to Live and Be Here, Life is Good, t's good and important to focus on herself and her needs, she is Worthy and Valid and that she can Trust.
I've changed my Whole Life Experience by doing this, and I know I've altered my daughters blue print to birth too!
In the next few months I'll be proudly adding Pregnancy Yoga to my tool box, curtesy of Lushtums Pregnancy Yoga Teacher Training, which will have a huge influence in how Women birth their babies and how those babies will go on to live their lives. I can't express just how much this excites me to be able to catch women at this point in their journey, way before crisis and trauma occur! Using the Lushtums Method, women will be able to expand their knowledge of Birth, grow in awareness of their own body and the different breathing techniques that will help them birth their babies. Throughout their practice they will connect in with themselves and their babies, growing in confidence to listen to that inner Voice, that Mother's Instinct and, be able to act on it without question when the time comes. Growing the bond with their baby, in this day and age where most babies have to take a back seat while mUm works, raises her other children and runs a house is Paramount for a healthy birth, healthy baby & healthy mUm physically and mentally. The Lushtums Method helps alleviate those common Pregnancy ailments so each class is bespoke to the mUm and deeply and gently strengthens their body & spirit, in preparation to birth they're baby!
Working with women in this way who are about to birth gives them a unique opportunity to heal in a loving & safe environment using evidence based tools that can be applied by them when they need too. Doing this work with them totally changes how they then go on to birth and live their lives, which is just HUGE as we as mUms are raising the next generation!!
I am so very Blessed and so very thankful & I LOVE MY WORK & the Huge Impact it has in Women's Lives!
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Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach