Recently, I've been working with a young adult, whose been gripped by Anxiety so strong that the mear thought of going out would engulf them to the point they would pass out and wake hours later with no memory at all. Housebound and friendless for a good few years they have the good fortune of attracting me into their life.
I say good Fortune because what they have just experienced is pricelss!
After a few sessions the trust had built enough for me to talk directly to 'Anxiety'. With some gentel questions it turns out that 'Anxiety' knew how the young adult really felt about the exams they were about to do, and the 'conveyour belt' of study, university, mindless job just to earn money that they were about to embark on, and so, decided to halt the process, so vehemently no one could argue with them about it and force them to continue along this 'conveyour belt'.
Well, although this was not new news to the young adult, it was the first time they had connected it all together, and they actually thanked Anxiety for all that it had done for them!!
They even relised that many times they had voiced that they actually did not want to get better because of the impending 'converyour belt' of life that loomed waiting for them. They went on then, in great detail to describe the life they 'thought' would happen if they got well enough.
And then I asked this simple question...
"What would you rather have?"
Oh My Lord!!!
I saw the energetic shudder erupt through them as they dramatically jumped the boundary from their problem space into a world as yet, unpainted, undiscovered!!!
In our next session we went outside to the shop and back!!
First time in 3 years!!
Peace and Love
Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach