When I was 7 Rapunzel was read to me and even at this very young age I asked my dad why she didn't just cut her own hair off and shimmy down it? I think it was at this point my ol' man got the measure of me!
So, just before I went to bed I read this post on Facebook that Austin Blood, relationships expert and mentor to thousands of women worldwide had posted. It really got right into my Solar Plexus and has irritated the fuck out of me ever since.
It implies that if a girl is good and kind and doesn't give of herself in a sexual way but waits patiently then a gallant, daring, brave young man will climb the tree and pick her of all the apples and take her away and enjoy all her juicy bits (because she's obviously only be made for him to enjoy).
And if no one comes and chooses her it's not her fault but that of the cowardly men that are around.
While the fallen, rotten apples who aren't as good and are on the ground and too easy, get snaffled up by all these Cowards only out for what they can get (which is off course, all you rotten apples juicy bits).
Both sets of apples on this tree are suffering from the age ol' Magdalene Story... The Sacred Prostitute Syndrome...
Us women either have to be chaste or a hussey! And actually we are all just in response to upbringing & dogma.
The ones at the top not having to look at their 'stuff' cause they fit within the correct social perimeters and the ones rolling around with a bunch of cowards are too busy having fun to care...
While the pool ol' guys don't really have a clue what's going on, they're just probably happy to be even talking to a girl let alone being able to sip her cider!
Both are BULLSHIT and designed to CONTROL...
I'm a mother of two sons and one daughter and this bullshit story fucks with both genders heads!
My sons have not been put on this planet to go SAVE your daughter and prove himself in anyway. He's been put here for himself, to be whole and to experience all that he wants too, attracting his mate at some point, who will be of an equal and in their own right empowered and whole! If that means consciously and lovingly fucking around and playing and generally having a good time then great!
Equally this rotten apple analogy does nothing to help elevate women to their rightful place within themselves or society.
I for one will not be bringing my daughter up to feel she has to behave in any particular way to attract a partner (man or women). If she wants to express herself physically, mentally, emotionally & sexually I will support her 100%.
She will not be waiting for anyone to come save her because she will be too busy living life to the max having amazing orgasims & following her own heart and Soul destination!
As a therapist and someone who has navigated the stormy waters of youth and I suppose one of the fallen apples, I can say that it's been down to trauma in my upbringing that led me to lead a rather self destructive early beginning. This had to do with my really low beliefs I held about myself, my value & my worth. The men I met and attracted also held similar self harming belief structures. Like attracts like. We were the rotten apples, seeking solace within each others company. But this is not WHO WE FUCKING ARE! This was just behaviour resulting from fucked up inherited belief structures and traumatic experiences.
These can be healed!
It makes me angry and sad that this kind of shit is still being posted and strong women are clicking LIKE!
Our young adults need love and help and guidance not more of this kind of bullshit.
All you girls and boys, men & women, I'm shaking the sodding tree and letting all the apples fall, its the only way to rise up and into your own power of existence. Squeeze every juicy drop outta life yourself, be your own saviour, heal what needs to be healed and love what needs to be love, act consciously and deliberately, know yourself & use your inner sat Nav, if it feels good then do it, if it doesn't then don't!
Mamma Trish!! X
Mum, NLP Trainer & Master Practitioner & Life Coach